Stumbled upon THIS NYtimes article a couple of days ago.
The article (What's is it about 20-somethings?) is basically about a proposed developmental period termed "emerging adulthood" which encompasses those in their 20's who are delaying "adulthood" (re: starting careers, settling down, having children) by traveling, participating in programs such as Teach for America/JET Programme, etc. This phase is a time for people to engage in identity exploration and experiment with love, work, and worldviews. It's a time of feeling grown-up & not fully so; of feeling less sure of the future but simultaneously more optimistic and idealistic. A time of change, transformation, and movement.
One 20-something comments on the common struggle & frustration during this period of life:
"It's somewhat terrifying...to think about all the things I'm supposed to be doing in order to 'get somewhere' successful: 'Follow your passions, live your dreams, take risks, network with the right people, find mentors, be financially responsible, volunteer, work, think about or go to grad school, fall in love and maintain personal well-being, mental health and nutrition.' When is there time to just be and enjoy?"
Being in this sort of no man's land, I think about this a lot. Not knowing "the plan" anymore, it's a constant push/pull between being content with self-development, life lessons, really growing into myself & feeling more comfortable with the person I am becoming and then, on the other hand, worrying about what I'm doing with my life as friends are climbing up the corporate ladder and I'm off frolicking in Japan. It's scary and overwhelming and suffocating sometimes but as I keep repeating to myself, it's okay. Things will work out. Idealistic? Yes. But true? I think that's also a yes.
On my trip to Okinawa, we stayed at a couple of different hostels and I got the chance to chat with some of the people working there. Listening to their stories is so interesting and inspiring- I felt like I was meeting Elizabeth Gilbert (author of Eat, Pray, Love- go read that book!) in Japanese form. I met a guy from the states who had moved to a rural island in Okinawa to work on a farm "just because", broke his leg & stayed in the hostel we were at on the main island, got offered a job, and there he's been for the past half a year. Another 26-year old from Tokyo (who took us kayaking and hiking to a waterfall!- and does this everyday) visited Iriomote (an Okinawan island covered in dense jungle & beauteous beaches) last October and decided to move there with his friend in February "because I like the ocean". And ANOTHER guy (who was really intelligent and loved reading/was interested in reading books in English to learn the language) moved from Tokyo because "it's warmer in Okinawa". Oh! And in our dorm-style hostel, I met an English woman (photographer by trade) who had taken half a year out to backpack around the world (africa, asia, on her way to south america!).
It's people like these who reassure me that it's okay not to know for certain what I'm doing or where I'm going from here. Call it self-discovery or self-indulgence- either way, we're still learning valuable lessons and gaining experiences that we'll hopefully use for self-improvement now and in the future. Those are my thoughts of the day.